do you choose who you love?

[degohi]

is it a choice or a mysterious feeling?

[Nubianwarrior Queen]

Peace Family,

You know.....an untrained heart will follow anything....a trained spirit is a better guide to Trust........The combination of a trained heart and spirit are unbeatable.. ....So, if we find ourselves struggling, we can adjust based on what will produce peace........We should aim to have more of our "whole" person involved when it's time to make possible life changing decisions.

Here's something I started doing many years ago.. I'd ask myself, and you could ask yourself the same thing " What if I had to change my present life's course and I had only had 10 minutes to exchange my person with one of the opposite sex, and I had to live out the "rest" of their life as them, with all their current growth, "who" would it be? and would I choose the person I think I love?.

When you have to engage more of your mind to "think" that out, you'll often opt to keep it movin' in peace, because your feelings produce these wonderful chemically induced "mysterious" trances, that don't allow for reality checks at all. Word to the wise... allow more of your "whole" self to be involved, and know that we are wonderfully complex beings who deserve as many good and life affirming experiences as possible. We should want to share what would produce peace for someone we may eventually come to "choose to love" because we have studied who "we are", and will apply the same getting to "know" process to someone else.

Peace to all-- Sis Marlene

[degohi]

A word of knowledge in truth is always appreciated. We are indebted to you for the offering of these jewels NubianWarrior Queen. (hug)

[Omi]

Marlene,

This suggestion has instantly changed the way I had been thinking about the recent breakup of my relationship. Thank you so much for that jewel. I agree that we need to bring our whole selves. I have recently begun to embrace and display my whole self (heart, head and spirit) unapologetically and without compromise because I realized that this was the problem in my past relationships. I tried to change or adapt or fit in with my mate and I eventually heard my insides screaming for air as they could no longer stand to be suffocated and suppressed. I am who I am every day no matter how hard I try to fit into some other image.

Our minds AND hearts are needed in the very important choice of who our mate will be.

I think that we choose who we love. We may not choose who we are attracted to or who we admire or who we meet but we certainly choose who we will give our energy to and who we will bind ourselves to. Someone told me that Love is a choice to take care of each other. Love is not a feeling- it is a choice to behave in a certain way.

Peace

Nubianwarrior Queen said:

Peace Family,
You know.....an untrained heart will follow anything....a trained spirit is a better guide to Trust........The combination of a trained heart and spirit are unbeatable.. ....So, if we find ourselves struggling, we can adjust based on what will produce peace........We should aim to have more of our "whole" person involved when it's time to make possible life changing decisions.
Here's something I started doing many years ago.. I'd ask myself, and you could ask yourself the same thing " What if I had to change my present life's course and I had only had 10 minutes to exchange my person with one of the opposite sex, and I had to live out the "rest" of their life as them, with all their current growth, "who" would it be? and would I choose the person I think I love?.

When you have to engage more of your mind to "think" that out, you'll often opt to keep it movin' in peace, because your feelings produce these wonderful chemically induced "mysterious" trances, that don't allow for reality checks at all. Word to the wise... allow more of your "whole" self to be involved, and know that we are wonderfully complex beings who deserve as many good and life affirming experiences as possible. We should want to share what would produce peace for someone we may eventually come to "choose to love" because we have studied who "we are", and will apply the same getting to "know" process to someone else.

Peace to all-- Sis Marlene